I often see people who get so caught up in the lives of others and who ar so easily influenced by what others think. I'm a firm believer in being uniquely "YOU". Sure, the world and people around us play a huge part in molding us into the people that we are, but being you is being true to yourself and loving the life you're living!

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Why are you single?

If you're like me then you've been hit with that question hundreds of times. Is there really an answer for it other than "I haven't met Mr. Right yet..."? Well, I'm a 29 year old Christian woman with a Master's degree, good job, good credit and no children. One would think that I'd be HOT on the market, right? For some reason that hasn't been the case. I've had good and bad luck dating. Needless to say I've never been dumped. So, why am I single....? I guess I find myself asking myself that same question.

Many people want to blame statistics of the black man (e.g. prison, gangs, dead, etc.) But I don't know what to think about that... then there's Oprah and other's that are encouraging young, black women to start dating white men. Hmmm... that's a thought I guess but I'm attracted to black men. Then there's the religious people that say wait on the Lord to provide your soul mate. I sometimes feel like I've been "waiting" forever. But of course patience is a virtue.

This is the story of so many of my young, black, educated friends. We vow not to just settle but it seems like such a hard task at times. So, now we are on a new path. A path of contentment in our season of singleness. I think that we are all still young and we should stop worrying about our "biological clocks", heck, look at Halle Berry... she just had a baby in her 40's! There are, of course, alot of benefits to being single. It does have it's fun and carefree times. But of course their are those time that you get lonely and would really like a companion. And there are times when you think about starting a family,etc.

Until that time comes, I feel that single people should stop focusing on "being single". It just weighs you down. It's time to be content and happy and learn to just enjoy life with all it has to offer as a single person. My pastor has said numerous times that "the single folks want to be married and the married folks wish they were single again". Ha! Isn't that something... With the divorce rate being 50% plus (I won't even mention infidelity), I think I can definitely be patient and make sure that I make a very good decision when it comes to choosing a life long mate.

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